He said to me once, that he could never love another person ever again. I didn't believe him. He was just being a hermit for the moment. Heck I would be too if I couldn't understand the difference between love and friendship. Well, the thing is, I can't really understand it either, but that doesn't mean I don't know what "love" might feel like.
For most people, love consists of two people, most of the time a girl and a boy, but that could also extend to a girl and a girl or a boy and a boy. But when you start getting into talks of gays and lesbians, that's where I really get confused. Don't get me wrong, I don't mind gays or lesbians at all, in fact I feel as if I sort of really understand how they feel. Well, not to the degree of wanting sex and what not. But sharing each other's minds. It shouldn't matter if your a girl or a boy or if you like girls or boys. Get rid of the body, the mind is what I can really get into. Although, the body can hold many projections on what is going on in one's mind. Perhaps to be called someone's girlfriend, I should be giving them things like hugs and kisses as well as my mind?
But there are many people I would like to give hugs and kisses to. I want to hold everyone who is important to me. Is that love? or mere friendship?
All I can say is that for the time being I don't love LOVE anyone. I'm not sure when I will be able to again. But I think that kind of love is overrated anyway.
To completely lose yourself in the existence of another person, and for them to lose themselves with in you. Save your souls.
Love but don't lose yourself.
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Part of the problem with language is meaning and interpretation. Love is a very generic term used to summarize a vast amount of feelings and so it has to be broken down with more words and more definitions which complicate things. But in short, for the most part, people know what somebody means when they say the words "I love you." But it can be misinterpreted as well. The phrase I love you can mean different things based on who I am saying it to, a friend, my mom, my lover, etc.
Love, intimate love, is about intimacy and openness for me. Mind, body, and soul. You completely share your mind, your body and your soul (or essence) with somebody. Any restrictions is a breakdown of intimacy and a breakdown of intimacy leads to fear of loss, or can contribute to wandering eyes, infidelity, etc.
Sharing my mind with somebody is what I do with a friend. To also share my body is what I do with somebody I love (ideally).
I don't think you should ever lose yourself in somebody else. I think you should join with somebody else and be more of a complete person with somebody else but to lose yourself in somebody can be a disaster. You are using somebody the way people use drugs or alcohol. You should never lose your self.
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